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Friday, October 20, 2006

Picky Daters

In his article, "Brother, You're Like a Six," Scott Croft imagines the personal ad of an average single Christian female:

"SCF (single Christian female) seeks SCM (single Christian male) to submit to in everything as to the Lord, to respect, to serve, to follow and to be led by in discipleship and ministry, to trust as spiritual leader of the home, and to serve Christ with for the next several decades or until Jesus comes back. SCM must possess total confidence (but can't be cocky and must trust SCF's opinion in all things); must be devastatingly handsome but have no idea that he is; must be exquisite interpersonal communicator who enjoys nothing more than long, conversations about the relationship; must understand SCF completely; and must otherwise fit description of how SCF thought 'The One' would be since SCF started thinking about it at age 11."

I had to laugh at his accuracy (though slightly exaggerated). Croft goes on to challenge the worldy notion that attraction should be the thing that draws people together. He writes:

The practical problem with letting "attraction" lead the way in finding a spouse is not profound: It doesn't work. If everyone demanded that their quirky, secular notions of attractiveness or chemistry be perfectly fulfilled before they would agree to marry a person, no one would marry.


At 12:10 PM, Blogger Mike Theemling said...

"...,must be devastatingly handsome but have no idea that he is"

My favorite list item.

Regarding male lists, he forgot to add: "Must allow him to continue to do his hobbies/interests unabated and not need to spend inordinate amount of time with her or with family 'duties' like changing diapers and driving kids to soccer games"

Problem of course is that just about all of us would agree with Steve's article yet when the rubber hits the road and we have to put our money where our mouth is most of us still are holding out for that '10' (maybe a 9.1).

I just find it strange, very strange, that God, the designer of sex and physical attraction, made it so strong; yet it's the one thing we are supposed to be the least concerned about. He could've chosen sexual attraction to be based on things like positive attributes, but He didn't.

At 10:49 PM, Blogger Deanna Regina said...

such a hard subject to wrap my brain around... on one hand scott is right, we should all be less "particular" on the other hand i know far too many girls who weren't "particular" enough and are in devistatingly bad marriages. ahh this is where the thought gives much comfort "God is sovereign EVEN over my marital state"


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